Monday, October 14, 2013

Letter to Richard - 14 October 2013

Dear Richard

This should be the last time for a while that I miss a week. Life is finally slowing down, now that the semester has ended J The last two weeks saw some pretty intense work for me. The first week I was lecturing 4 hours a day, but I definitely was blessed! I was most worried about the physical fatigue going into the week, but on the first day I realised that I was having incredible clarity of thought during my lectures, and I realised that Heavenly Father was blessing me with what I needed almost more than physical strength – the mental capacity to get through the teaching and keep everything straight, and also just to keep on going. The most hectic was Friday when I lectured second years twice in the morning, then tutored my third years for 2 hours and then lectured the 1st years twice after that. Very hectic! But I got through, and reasonably well I think J I made a short little video with the kids saying good luck for the exams, which I showed the 1st and 2nd years on the Friday for my last day lecturing them for the year, and they just loved that!

Then this past week I spent a lot of time marking the videos that my students made – but that was the best marking I’ve ever had to do at varsity J And then I spent the week lecturing my 3rd years revision, and on the last day we had a premiere of the top 5 videos and they voted on the best. Such fun! And a really great way to end the year J And I showed them my video as well, of course ;)

In general things have been going pretty well with the kids. Like this evening they were really great! And the times like that are becoming more frequent J They’re also being pretty good about helping around the house, unpacking the dishwasher and tidying up, putting their clean washing away… But we did have an interesting time when we put Josh in the naughty corner one evening, and, in defiance, he kicked the bottom glass panel in the front door and broke it! He got a real fright, and quite a bad gash on his leg… Mom thought it probably should have had stitches, although we just used steri strips, and it seems to be holding fine. But now that I’m thinking about it, I think there has been an improvement in his behaviour in general since then J So lessons learnt! We’ve been talking a lot to Josh about consequences recently, pointing out how if he does something, there is a consequence, good or bad. I think he’s starting to get the concept J

Josh lost his first tooth! He was so excited! He spent the rest of that evening colouring in a beautiful picture of the tooth mouse, which we stuck onto this bed, so that the tooth mouse would know that Josh wanted him to collect his tooth, instead of the tooth fairy ;) And he was so excited to get his money in the morning! But what was just the best was that we then helped him to fill in a tithing slip, and yesterday he very proudly handed his envelope to Sam. The money came in coins so that he could easily pay his tithing. And Sam was great about it when I told him it was Josh’s first tithing. He shook his hand and said, “The Lord is very grateful for your tithing!” Such a special experience J

We also started reading the first of the Magic Faraway Tree books to Josh and Hannah at bedtime. They are LOVING it! Especially Josh! That might also be helping with the good behaviour, because I can use it as leverage ;) We will probably finish the first book this week, after less than 3 weeks! And what’s also really great is that this shows that Josh especially can listen to a story and enjoy it, and not have to be seeing something as well, which so many kids these days need to have J

Cindy drove in with me a couple of times for old times’ sake, before she then left last week for Joburg. It was strange, because the day after she left Caleb was wanting to go over the road as usual, but after finding Granny, he then started looking all over for “Me-me”. He even came to the window, confirmed that both cars were there, and was convinced that Cindy should be there! That was also the first time that I’d heard him using a name for Cindy, just after she left! But she’s all safely there, as you know, I’m sure ;)

We’ve been visiting over the road a lot recently! Caleb is the main instigator, but it’s just SO great to see Mom doing so much better with her mental health, and now that the neurologist has diagnosed her, her physical health is improving a lot too! So awesome! So she’s also able to handle the kids being there right now J So all of you guys are gone, but the house is still full of kids ;) But it’s also just so nice to see how Mom and Dad are getting to do things together like they haven’t done in years!

And then last weekend was General Conference! We only got to watch limited amounts, although I did participate to some degree or other in 5 sessions over the weekend, so I was happy with that J And what amazing talks, as always! I’ve been listening to and reading some more as the week has gone by, and there are some many that really struck home! A few that were really great: Elder Holland – Like a Broken Vessel (which I also sent to 2 people, and they both responded favourably!), Elder Bednar on tithing, Elder Soares on meekness (wow, so much to work on!), Pres Uchtdorf – Come Join with us (in case you hadn’t heard, the New York Times reported on this talk in particular, and no wonder!). So much, and I’ve still got so much to get through and absorb! Conference is such an amazing gift J It was also just so awesome to see how Facebook was covered in the rugby match between South Africa and New Zealand and General Conference. There was very little else that people were talking about on the Saturday! The members really are catching the vision of being visible!

During the Relief Society session we sang hymn 270 – I’ll go where you want me to go, as the intermediate hymn. I had been looking down at something, but as I looked up the words of the 3rd verse, which were on the screen at the time just hit me so hard!
“So trusting my all to thy tender care,
And knowing thou lovest me,
I’ll do thy will with a heart sincere,
I’ll be what you want me to be.”
Heavenly Father really does love us! And so we can trust Him to know what’s best for us, and then to know that whatever he’s asked of us is really for our best. What a blessing to know that, and then to also know what He’s wanting us to do!

And I’ve had some great missionary experiences these past couple weeks! So I sent the talk by Elder Holland to one of Josh’s friends’ mom, as well as to a couple that I work with. The couple at work said they were grateful and they planned on watching it over the weekend. But this morning I got a call from the mom saying that she was so grateful to read the talk, and amazed that I thought to send it to her. Her brother is struggling with cancer, and I’ve been thinking for a while that I need to try and talk to her about the gospel. This was a good way to do it in the end. But she told me that she’s just recently started attending church again, so the timing is really great! I invited her to meet with the missionaries, and although she said no, she’s just starting to go the other church, we did end the conversation with me inviting her to chat to me if she has any questions about religion. She’s new to it at this stage, and she can see that it’s a big part of my life. So I think it was actually a really good experience overall! And I think we’ll invite her and her family to come to the Primary presentation next month J

And then I also had a couple of other conversations with people, where I was able to bring up the church and the gospel. I’m getting much better at being able to do it in a natural way, and without going overboard! I’m really happy with my efforts J Plus I’ve been posting things pretty regularly on Facebook. So huge improvements for me all round!

The last major event of the last 2 weeks is that on Saturday Andrew’s youngest brother, Peter, got married, and on the same day Andrew’s parents celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary! Quite a day in the Herbert house! And what a blessing to have the gospel, which plays a big part in getting to 50 years of marriage: it gives you the principles to live so that you are trying to be your best self, it gives you the motivation to try and work at your marriage, even if things aren’t going well, and it keeps you healthy so that you have your best chance of living long enough to get to 50 years!

So very busy times, but thankfully things are looking quieter now! Such a relief J

Shelly

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