Sunday, April 14, 2013

Letter to Richard - 30th birthday and sick kids


Dear Richard

So I’ve been trying really hard to get the kids to also come and write something to you, but with Josh, he just wants to be working on the keyboard as well. So firstly he’ll want me to show him which keys to press, then he’ll find the letters in his own name and type it (he can type his whole name like that), then he went to the number pad and was typing all the numbers to 20, and then he just goes crazy, and actually ended up deleting everything constructive that he’d typed… But he’s just so excited about being able to be typing things that he can’t focus on the task at hand.

I think with both of them it will be easier to get them involved when you are able to start sending some photos – that will make everything more real to them, and I’m sure they’ll want to be telling you what they’ve been doing.

And what have we been doing… Right now all that stands out in my mind is dealing with sick kids L Right now I am once again the only healthy one in my family… I had to fetch Hannah early from school on Friday, and although we went to a stake Primary activity and to Fish Hoek for a braai for my birthday, we really shouldn’t have… the kids were pretty sick, and Andrew was getting more and more sick. So I then ended up staying home from church today with all 3. Anyone who thinks that staying home from church is a holiday doesn’t know WHAT they’re talking about! I did a short primary type thing with them when Caleb was sleeping this morning, and we did other quiet things like colouring in, watching a Sunday movie and stuff. But the downside of that is that Josh was bursting with unspent energy by the end of the day… But we got them off to sleep finally  with minimum fuss.

So what else happened…? Well there was my birthday on Friday. And I must be honest it actually was a bit of a flop on the whole. It started off great, with great presents from Andrew and the kids – the latest Josh Groban CD, a great book, a pretty plant for my office (chosen by Josh), a new water bottle (chosen and initiated by Josh) and socks (chosen and initiated by Hannah). So those were all really great and thoughtful. And people at work remembered, and that was all great. But then I got called to come and fetch a sick Hannah, and we did still go out in the evening to watch A Handful of Keys, but we were super rushed to leave, Mom pulled out at the last moment, and we had to rush to find someone to take her place (Sis Jean came and really enjoyed it) and then between going via UCT to fetch Andrew’s parents and Amanda, an accident and just general chaos, we only just make it on time… But at least we really enjoyed the show, and I got a CD autographed by the performers (Jonathan Roxmouth and Ian von Nemety) for Mom, so that was cool. But I did NOT enjoy that rush to get there. And then we were going to do a picnic yesterday, but decided to cancel it because of the stake primary activity. We were going to do cake and scones this afternoon, and had to cancel it because of sick kids. And Andrew was going to buy me a tablet, but we decided to wait because it just wasn’t practical to make it happen now… So on balance it wasn’t my best. And as my 30th, it was supposed to be a nice one. But I guess that’s just how life goes… We’ll go with: You weren’t here, so your awesomeness couldn’t radiate to make the whole thing wonderful J

But the whole week wasn’t disastrous. On Monday morning Andrew and I decided we needed to talk to someone that’s been doing some stupid things. It had to be done urgently, so we made the decision to have the talk in the morning for that evening when Andrew got home from work. I decided to fast, for guidance in how we led in the discussion, and trying to do the whole thing with love, instead of the initial anger I had been feeling when I found out about what this individual was doing… And my prayers and fasting were certainly answered! The discussion went really well, and from the reports during the week from people who know, the individual has been choosing better now, and even looks better! We are SO glad, I can’t even tell you!

I recently had an insight into how fasting works. There is of course the side of it which is letting your spiritual side control your physical side, which puts you more in tune with the Spirit. But I’ve never really felt that working so well for me… My physical side never stops complaining about being ignored, and I’m not really left with a happy feeling. But if you think about fasting as a sacrifice, then it takes on a different light. So I realised that if I sacrifice eating and drinking, then I can go to the Lord and say, “Look, I have been willing to sacrifice this. Please honour my sacrifice by giving me the help that I need”. It’s the one thing that we can put on the table when we are asking for help. Otherwise we are not offering anything in return for the help of whatever kind we are requesting. And so when I fasted on Monday I did it with this in mind, and then I was so much better able to bring the physical side of me under control, and my prayers were answered, WITHOUT a doubt! It was actually a great experience!

On Thursday we had Susan over. She actually did the cooking for us, and then helped me putting the kids to bed after Andrew went off to youth. The kids really enjoyed a new face, but I think she was exhausted by the end of the evening! I guess I forget how much we actually do. And of course we did build up to this gradually over the last 5 years. So coming in the deep end must be quite a shock!

Oh, and I was called as the education specialist today, the calling that Elaine Ruck held last year before she left the ward. I’m going to miss teaching in Relief Society, but I think this is going to be a cool challenge!

So that’s about it. I’m REALLY looking forward to hearing more about what you’re doing, and seeing some photos!

Keep well, love you lots J
Shelly

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