Monday, February 10, 2014

Letter to Richard - 10 February 2014

Dear Richard

So Caleb’s first week went amazingly well! After the bit of tears on the first morning he hasn’t cried once since! Every morning he’s walked into his class, puts his bag in his locker, gives me a kiss and then goes to the carpet to join the other kids. So amazing! I couldn’t be a happier mom J And all of the teachers just love him, but that’s his sparkly personality for you! One of the only sad things is that we’re really losing our baby now. Even his hands and feet aren’t as soft as they were L But it’s all part of growing up, and at least we got to really enjoy him as a baby!

Joshua’s teacher has identified very early on what we’ve also noticed about him, that he’s a perfectionist. So now we have to work on helping him to realise that he doesn’t have to have everything perfect. He’s at school to learn because he doesn’t know everything, and he’s allowed to make mistakes. Kind of like how life works J

At work I’ve finished pretty much everything I need to before the semester starts next week. But I’ve also started doing things to get going on my Masters, which I’m wanting to do now. I’ve started reading up about how to actually do a Masters, and then also a bit of reading about the research area I’ll be looking at, of Integrated Reporting. So far so good, although I’m still not feeling wildly excited about it… But as I get more into it, I’ll hopefully have more excitement. Right now it’s more about the fact that I really have to do my Masters. But I’ve also been doing an online speed reading course to try and help me read faster with all of the reading I’m going to have to do!

On Friday we had the family over that we’ve been trying to introduce to the gospel. We had a great time swimming, particularly helping their son to gain confidence – sometimes peer pressure can be a good thing, when it comes to things like helping kids perform their best J But we had a really nice time visiting with them and getting to know them better. Her mom is also struggling with mental illness, so that was also something bond over.

On Saturday we all went to Jesse’s first birthday party, and then I took Hannah to a birthday party for one of her school friends. It was the first party for her class where most of the class was there. So I took the opportunity to try and speak to a whole bunch of parents and get to know them a bit. I’m really not great at socialising and small talk, but I’m trying to get better at it, and it went quite well J And it’s great to see Hannah growing in confidence a bit, although, like Josh, she also takes a while to get comfortable when we first get to a new place like that. But I’d rather have kids that are cautious, hopefully they’re less likely to do things like going off with strangers!

On Saturday we went over the road a bit and Andrew was the only one home. But seeing him with the kids I realised that he really does have a gift with kids. He was helping the kids fix something on their bikes, and he was just saying and doing just the right things, and he has a great imagination J But he says he doesn’t want to have his own kids – he’d rather just be an uncle. We’ll still see what the future brings ;)

My first Sunday School lesson went really well yesterday J  There is a great YSA class right now, and we seemed to have a good chemistry. So there are still a few class members who didn’t say anything, but I’ll try and work on that with time. The lesson was on Noah, and one of the class members made an interesting observation. Most of the time we think that Heavenly Father was quite harsh destroying the whole world. But in fact he was being very merciful to those spirits that were waiting to come to earth. If they had been born into wicked families their chances of breaking out of that cycle are almost non-existent. But by starting over they would have a chance to be born to righteous families.  And that emphasises what an awesome responsibility it is to have children, and to raise them righteously, so that they have their best chance of making good choices themselves! We were certainly blessed to grow up in a home like that! And we’re trying with our kids, but not getting it perfect of course… But I read somewhere recently one of the apostles who said that our efforts in parenting are only a failure if we give up. As long as we keep on trying our efforts are acceptable. So I’m holding onto that ;)

We had our last visit with Shawn yesterday. It’s been really nice having him here. And the kids have gotten on really well. They’ll be sorry to not have Saffie around anymore. We probably won’t see them again for at least 4 years, when my kids will be 9, 7 and 5! Just crazy! And Cindy might even have kids by then :O Crazy!

So that’s about it… One more week until the craziness really starts! So I’m just enjoying the slightly relaxed pace still, although we’re busy planning Caleb’s party for Saturday now… It never stops!

Love you lots J

Shelly

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